can't get around these verses

Psalm 127: 1
Unless the LORD builds a house,
the work of the builders is wasted.
Unless the LORD protects a city,
guarding it with sentries will do no good. (New Living Translation)

If God doesn't build the house,
the builders only build shacks.
If God doesn't guard the city,
the night watchman might as well nap. (The Message)

Unless the LORD builds the house,
its builders labor in vain.
Unless the LORD watches over the city,
the watchmen stand guard in vain. (NIV)

I guess no matter how we translate it, it comes out the same - if we don't let God "precede & follow us" or if we don't let God prepare the way, & let Him be responsible for the success or failure of something, unless we trust Him to bring to fruit what we're being & doing for Him, it's just not gonna turn out like He planned.

He poked me about downtown this morning with this verse. If this thing we're being & doing downtown is gonna become what He wants it to be & do, I just gotta be obedient & get out of the way.

Luke 14:33
No one can become My disciple w/o giving up everything for Me. (NLT)

Simply put, if you're not willing to take what is dearest to you, whether plans or people, and kiss it good-bye, you can't be my disciple. (The Message)

In the same way, any of you who does not give up everything he has cannot be my disciple. (NIV)

So then, any of you who does not forsake (renounce, surrender claim to, give up, say good-bye to) all that he has cannot be My disciple. (Amplified)

I tried to find a translation that would soften this mandate. Couldn't. There it is - if we're gonna follow Him, we have to "kiss goodbye what is dearest to us". What we get is God & the life He dreamed for us long ago.